Raybound round1/6/2024 ![]() It’s an attempt to see if they can still get a reaction out of you. This is nothing more than image managing and attention-mongering at its finest. Even if your ex doesn’t directly flaunt his/her new relationship, they make it known on social media that they are happy/changed/successful/”busy”/”enlightened,” etc.Think about it – because they’re dating someone else, they don’t have to explain to anyone why it didn’t work out with you (and generally, toxic people like this are so narcissistic, they don’t like having to view or talk about themselves/their actions in a negative way). It also provides a distraction from having to think about you, from having to be responsible, and from having to talk about you to inquiring family and friends. It saves them from having to explain to everyone why they have yet another failed relationship under their belt. If they start dating someone new right away, it’s an immediate cop-out from accountability (and from having to explain to everyone why they are still single). The faster your ex moves on after the breakup, the more in denial, avoidant, and hurt he/she was (and is). If it’s been a relatively short amount of time (it’s all relative, but I like to say three months or less), since the breakup/last time he/she spoke with you… It’s highly likely that this is a rebound relationship.Healthy relationships don’t come from a situation like this. They started the relationship before they ended it (or as they were ending it) with you.Here are the 5 signs that he/she is in one: If you are now beginning to think, “My ex is in a rebound relationship”… This does nothing but justifies your stalking, obsession, and further demolishes your confidence and sense of worth. ![]() It gives you a license to continue to remain invested through closeted and humiliating means. It then becomes much easier to subscribe to the story that our ex is new and improved.Īll of the insecurities that their behavior activated now seem valid. This is how “bad luck” with relationships is developed and why people keep dating different animals but the same toxic species (and keep getting the same result). We are hesitant to label our ex as being in a rebound relationship because we are vulnerable and our only source of happiness has been taken away. You are still the same toxic person in the same, non-mutual, toxic relationship – no matter who you’re with. You don’t get the chance to better yourself by learning from your mistakes and evolving. The reason that they usually result in an epic fail is because of the very distraction they provide.Īs long as you’re “distracted,” you never get to emotionally heal and deal. Rebound relationships are nothing more than distractions. Rebound relationships are adult security blankets composed of 0% cotton and 100% self-serving avoidance of guilt, confrontation, responsibility, accountability, and reality. They are generally with someone that your ex will claim (on social media especially) to be serious with, committed to, seeing a future with, loyal to, and emotionally invested in. Rebound relationships are a specific type of toxic relationship that forms quickly after a breakup. Maybe the joke’s on your ex, karma is slowly kicking in, and he/she is in the biggest relationship joke of them all: the rebound. You feel like a forgettable loser and brace yourself for the inevitable proposal that was supposed to be yours.īut maybe, this could actually be a good thing. All the progress you convinced yourself you’ve made is gone. It’s not a game but it feels like your ex just won. You find out from a mutual friend that they’ve moved on. You may have even gotten to the point where you start to feel yourself getting better, thinking about him/her every few hours (instead of every second). Your insecurities can’t get you to believe that your ex is only capable of toxic relationships.Īfter breaking up, the next step is moving on. You know, that thing you’ll never label your ex as being in.īecause you are more comfortable convincing yourself that they’ve changed – that they are a better person in a better relationship with someone who’s everything you never were.
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